I’ve asked various people what they feel like the purpose of life is and read an array of articles covering this abstract concept – and it’s more or less that people want to be happy. This somewhat connects to my last post with regards to what people might call the ‘good life.’ You know, posted on the beach with a Corona for the rest of your living days under a palm tree, getting decadent meals served to you. That good life.
And although I am nowhere near that point to where I can do that, I can’t picture myself doing that for more than a few weeks. Sooner or later, I would get ridiculously bored and look for a way to be productive, a way to grow. That’s what happiness is, right?
Happiness = Growth
Tony Robbins states that we are either growing or dying. There is no in-between. That means if you are in a relationship and you feel like you are no longer learning from one another, you are no longer creating excitement to keep the spark going, no longer appreciating the play of masculine and feminine energies…well, it’s slowly dying. You may not be necessarily fighting with one another frequently or much at all, you guys just feel like the relationship is standing still. It’s slowly dying. Unless you guys use it as feedback and change course. And you probably know that.
Same goes for any endeavor in life. It is the challenges, choosing to take on a new skill, further honing your strengths, moving in spite of your fears, crafting a compelling vision for your life that generates this sense of unintoxicated happiness, the kind of happiness that lasts.
And so it seems that happiness is a lifestyle because growing comes down to the moment-to-moment decisions we make in life. Happiness is a mentality and a concept becomes a mentality after lots of practice..
I love the metaphor that Brendon Burchard uses: that a nuclear plant doesn’t have energy, it generates energy. Our HAPPINESS can be thought of in the same way, as something we bring about. It doesn’t just come to us. It’s generated by the thoughts we have, the actions we take, the vision we create for our life, those moment-to-moment choices that fuel either growth or decay.