I recently gave a presentation for a workshop with my coaching buddy, Keiju, and used this analogy regarding our STATE. Our state is how we feel at any moment.
Think of your HOME as the states that you experience the most. That’s where you tend to live from day to day. It might be overwhelm if you have a lot of stress. It might be sadness if you experienced a death in your family that is hard to get over. Then, on the other side, you have some states that you experience occasionally. You take vacations to these states. If you live in sadness, maybe you visit happiness during the holidays.
I have two questions:
- What three states do you live in right now?
- What two states do you visit?
Next, let’s create a declaration and thereby a design a new home for us.
You can fill in the template here:
From NOW ON, I, (your name), am DECIDING to LIVE in (positive emotion 1), (positive emotion 2), and (positive emotion 3). Sometimes, I VISIT (negative emotion 1) and (negative emotion 2), but it’s NOT where I LIVE. I KNOW where I LIVE. And I LOVE where I LIVE. And I ALWAYS go HOME.
Here is mine:
From NOW ON, I, Gavin Masumiya, am DECIDING to LIVE in PASSION, CONFIDENCE, and PRESENCE. Sometimes, I VISIT FRUSTRATION and INSECURITY, but it’s NOT where I LIVE. I KNOW where I LIVE. And I LOVE where I LIVE. And I ALWAYS go HOME.
Tony Robbins states that an incantation are effective insofar as the person reciting it engages the triad:
FOCUS: Where your attention is. Are you attending to the ‘negative’ in a situation or the ‘positive,’ the light or the darkness?
LANGUAGE: The words you use to bring life to your STATE. Do you say shit like “life sucks,” “life is so hard,” “I just don’t know what to do anymore, there’s no hope,” “this is killing me right now.” These words will add gas to the disempowering flame.
PHYSIOLOGY: body movements, posture, breathing, facial expressions, tonality. This is the quickest way to alter your STATE.
An effective incantation will incorporate all 3 pieces of the triad to effectively change your STATE.
Where is your new home? And where do you visit? Try it and please share how it goes!