Setting It Up To Lose

After hearing some people and what their difficulties are, I begin to see a pattern that there is this image of how everything is supposed to turn out and that it has to be handled in a very specific way, which ends up stagnating people. I find myself doing that as well, except mine tends to be more in the form of trying to do many things at once, which creates very little progress in the bigger scheme of things. It becomes a turtle race in every arena. And it also leads to overwhelm, so I tend to freeze up at some point because I get uncertain with HOW I will get to a certain goal.

It becomes this race leading to nowhere but more stuff in my head

One after the other before giving myself the opportunity to apply any of the material into my life.

For instance, I might continuously read one book and then go straight into another one without taking time to reflect on the previous book and how it can benefit my life by applying some of the strategies. It becomes this habit of taking in information versus actualizing information. In this sense, it’s a stagnating behavior to read one book after another without application, yes? Running on an intellectual treadmill.

So, a great question for me to ask from now on is:

How can I apply some key strategies in this chapter to improve my life right now?

And then I create some achievable actions that can be done within the next 1-2 hours. This means I put the book down and read no further until I accomplish these actions. I admit that it gets so tempting to just continue reading, but it hasn’t done much for me other than serving as intellectual fluff.

This concerns anything I do. Placing focus on one segment at a time and giving it my undivided attention. My intent for this post is to not put my eggs into too many different baskets. That’s partially the reason why I stopped writing on my blog. I found other endeavors to be more important than writing on my blog and I had some things to prove to myself before writing about it.

But I know that my blog is meant to share my passion, things that have been holding me back, and strategies that have contributed to my overall sense of well-being. I know that I can’t please everyone, so all I can do is please myself by sharing what I love. That’s setting it up to win.


So, what am I saying to myself (and as a reflection, to everyone):

  1. Focus on one thing at a time
  2. Actualizing is the goal. What I know is miniscule if it’s not incorporated into my lifestyle.
  3. Be flexible in approach – HOW, but very intent on your WHY. This makes it more difficult for others to compel you into a different direction out of uncertainty and fear. WHY is power.
  4. Know that I will contradict myself at times. Don’t beat your own self up over it. Aligning with my values as consistently as possible is a muscle. It requires training.


Action questions:

  1. What are you focusing on right now? List everything that comes to mind.
  2. What is one thing you can do right now that will bring you authentic joy because it reinforces personal growth?

If you’d like, write your answers in a comment below. No pressure.

Gavin Masumiya

A lifenthuziast seeking new adventures and ways to expand my awareness, while transmitting positivity and vibrancy throughout the world.

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