I watched part of Joe Rogan’s podcast with Joey Diaz, a stand-up comedian, and Joey Diaz said something very simple that he lives by (You can watch a short clip of this conversation here):
It seems so simple, yes? But then we deal with the stress of contemplating whether or not we can become successful at a specific thing and may then conclude that it’s just a waste of time. We wonder what other people are thinking about us and that makes us fearful of starting or continuing to do something. We create very elaborate stories in our minds about how things might go and they are often disempowering. People may criticize our work, saying we should just stop, and that discourages us. Boofuckinghoo.
Well, Joey’s words rang a bell in me because trying to learn the ins and outs of blogging, for example, and even putting together just one post per week does not come easy to me…at all. It can be a real pain in the ass. This is still a very new endeavor – I just started a little over three months ago – and it’s not fun at times. When I write, sometimes I wonder if there’s anything important I have to say, so I sit in my head for a long time pondering what I can possibly write about. I may come up empty handed. So, even as I am writing this, I’m having this uncertainty about what to say next, but I remember what I told myself: you are going to deliver one high quality post every Tuesday (Japan time). And I hear the words come into my head,
“Just keep showing up.”
You know, I read a blog about the founder of Addicted2Success, Joel Brown, who said that he only writes when he has something very important to say and that’s one of the ways he built his fanbase and eventually came to monetize his blog, and it’s a very successful blog, which I have been recently following (You can read his blog entry here). He writes that sometimes you may not get a post from him, but continues that his fans know such is the case because the quality isn’t there. I have high respect for his integrity.
Now, I have no authority to say what is effective. My brand is barely known by anyone and is not making a single cent. His strategy has worked very well for him and it’s wise to follow the steps of a successor. It makes a lot of sense to me, intellectually, to express myself only when I ‘feel’ like I have something to say, so I completely respect that perspective. Now, I’m not following his rule here and this may seem like a contradiction since my brand is committed to creating high quality material to empower my readers. I might even lose a few readers here. But it really depends on how you look at it.
In the grander scheme of things, I am choosing to be consistent with my goal, which allows me to develop my ability to express myself and push through perceived barriers. This will make me more effective and efficient in the long run. This act right now is a test to see how I can create something of high value in spite of doubt. This act of writing is reinforcing a belief that I can push through even though my mind is telling me to stop.
I remember that my mission is to create high quality content meant to empower my readers, while showing my flesh as a man in the same boat. I am not forgetting this intention. This post may not be at the same caliber as some of my previous posts, or maybe it is, or maybe it’s even better than some.
I am looking at this post here like practicing anything. You don’t just practice basketball when you feel inspired to and expect to get better. No, you show up consistently and practice the fundamentals. You might feel like sometimes you aren’t progressing and may even seem less skilled than the week before, but in the bigger picture – if you are consistent – you will see growth over time. If I am consistent, I will see growth when I stop to glance back to see where I’ve come. Then it’s back to looking onward.
I’ve realized something here. This post is an act, but we’re thinking bigger now: this post is reinforcing a mentality, not a feeling. Feelings tell me I shouldn’t continue. The mentality is that I’m consistently pushing through mental walls, challenging the status quo, stretching my comfort zone, building more resilience, realizing new possibilities by doing things differently, having the balls to respectfully take criticism, and push forward.
This post is not for the sake of having a post to meet my goal. This post is nurturing a mentality.
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